Separating Types of Discipline in Your Homeschool and Your Everyday Life for your kid
There are many times my frustration with my kids had to do with their time management regarding homeschool work, their schedule, their motivation for their work or the quality of their work.
Problem is, PARENTING and HOMESCHOOL TEACHER roles are RATHER DIFFERENT and it BENEFITS US TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE
In our homeschool, dad and mom are the teachers and administrators. We have to decide the boundaries, the behaviors we want our kids to have when addressing learning.
IT CHANGES OVER THE YEARS and it should, as your kid grows, and you grow.
When our kids were in Elementary school and we homeschooled them, our goal was FOCUS, QUIET, and BUILDING CORE LEARNING KEYS in Math, Reading, Writing, Comprehension and Logic.
So, we put RULES and GOALS in place, and consequences in place when work wasn't done, or the kid was disrespectful.
Rules should be displayed, reviewed and have consequences.
For School ONLY, we had a rule to
1. Share why you don't want to do your assignment? [Need more help? / I am bored / I just don't feel like doing anything / I want to do something else'
This will help you assess WHY THE KID DOESN'T WANT to finish their work.
2. Expected Behaviors While Learning. [Watch Video / Watch Teacher / Focus Your Attention]
When those behaviors weren't met, we had a consequence > STUDENT GIVE TEACHER a BETTER EXAMPLE of how to teach the material > OR Student you have the weekend to learn it and present since the method was delivered in a way you don't want to follow.
MAKE YOUR KID PART OF THE SOLUTION to a DISCIPLINED LEARNING ENVIRONMENT
In all cases where you have a consequence, have the child answer questions to be part of the solution for encouraging them to get on board with the learning.
Also, have a consequence. If they don't want to finish their work. They don't get to watch TV, play outside, go to a sport > until it's done.
DISCIPLINE FOR EVERYDAY LIFE
TALKING BACK > Do you allow it? Should you allow it?
I allow my kids to have a respectful stage to voice their feelings. When it's not respectful, they have to deal with the consequences of punishment and us taking away something we have given them.
DO Not ALLOW yelling, cursing, or tantrums. Your child has to learn to respect others, if they want respect. Although, mom or dad my not strike them, in the real world, someone will. Teach them to think and deal with the consequences of violence, nasty language and disregard for forms of authority.
We ASK THEM THE QUESTIONS that MOVE THEM TOWARDS THE BEST ANSWER to get their buy-in and ownership of their behavior.
They also have to agree, that we have the final say. They also have to apologize for their disrespectful behavior. *Make this part of the daily reminders*
CHORES and RESPONSIBILITIES
This is also an area where we have a standard and a consequence for not meeting the standard. If my kid doesn't feel as though the chore is fair, they can state why and give a solution. If we don't agree with the solution, the work better get done, or there is a consequence of loss of some type of freedom or financial gain from the chore.