Strive for Your Kid's Happiness
Will Equal Their Success
I've learned so much in these last 20 years of raising kids. More about myself, then just them I believe.
However, they are like their mom and dad - OVER ACHIEVERS but only because we focus on the things they are passionate about.
WAYS TO FIND THE THING THAT MAKES THEM TICK
I always demanded my kids try something - at least once. If they didn't like it after trying it, I would let them select the next activity.
Pushing your child or even yourself to try something outside of your comfort zone widens their perspective. Also, just because they don't love something the first time, doesn't mean they won't try it again.
For instance, we put my oldest son in football at 9yrs old. He hated it. However, when he turned 12 yrs old, he requested to play again. This time - he gave it his all and played running back from 7th grade to 12th.
I made him sign up for track in 9th grade. He disliked that also, said the competition was too difficult and he was too small. Then in the 11th grade he ran track in the winter months and medaled in his 12th grade year.
Since he didn't have a sport to occupy him in Spring that he liked, I signed him up for Lacrosse...and he ended up playing in College and was one of the top 'Face Off' champs in the county.
NEVER STOP TRYING
Teaching kids to never give up on themselves is a good thing. Reinforcing positive vibes is just fine. Also, teaching them to not give up when things are hard (by cheering them on) last a lifetime.
KNOW WHEN TO BACK OFF
Don't be one of these parents that devour their kid's voice. Allow them to own their destiny. Give them permission to change their minds.
ASK THEM TO LEAD THE WAY
After they've tried many adventurous things you've set before them. Ask them to lead the way with you. Guide them, but slowly teach them to do this for themselves.