tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2146152536391205506.post6275288475250758219..comments2023-06-27T08:13:06.876-07:00Comments on Working Homeschool Parent: CAN LABELING CHILDREN BY THIER BEHAVIOR BE HARMFULLMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17214360611619599465noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2146152536391205506.post-75812157427005306682013-10-11T16:32:05.157-07:002013-10-11T16:32:05.157-07:00I love love love this post! I hate labels and I ag...I love love love this post! I hate labels and I agree with every word you said. Just today someone called my 2 year old ADD because she didn't finish her juice box before putting it down! That's crazy! Oh my, did I just use a label. ;)Amy Matkovichhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17218024625676922742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2146152536391205506.post-35136740702746605032013-10-10T10:09:24.315-07:002013-10-10T10:09:24.315-07:00Oh gosh! I won't go into much about this but I...Oh gosh! I won't go into much about this but I had someone who use to do that. She would brag to others about how she "made" me do something by threats or punishment. To this day, I hate being told what to do. Even if it's right. Even if I should do it. In those situations, I find myself silently refusing to comply just because I was told. It's a personal battle for me. lol<br /><br />I agree. If it's not NECESSARY.. don't do it. On my blog, I run everything past my girls first. If they don't like it, it doesn't get posted.Michelle Cannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00976463783641350548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2146152536391205506.post-42113912899201594002013-10-08T09:51:21.379-07:002013-10-08T09:51:21.379-07:00I truly believe in getting a diagnosis, what I don...I truly believe in getting a diagnosis, what I don't think people should do is point out or throw out a diagnosis without purpose. It's so easy for people to say or name a child's behavior. Sometimes even children they don't know. But as a parent, I believe in only pointing out my kid's issues if I need to. I remember inviting a friend's child over and before her kid could even start playing she told me about why he was punished the day before. The kid just slumped his shoulders and refused to play.LMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17214360611619599465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2146152536391205506.post-66665425730927429662013-10-08T09:48:06.198-07:002013-10-08T09:48:06.198-07:00I've actually been planning to write a post ab...I've actually been planning to write a post about this. I don't consider a diagnosis a "label" and I'm guessing you don't either by the fact that you suggest getting a diagnosis.<br /><br />I've never introduced my kids as dyslexic or bipolar or ..whatever. They have these things but it's not how I'd introduce them. Ever. Only recently did I have the courage to post it on my blog. I use the term "courage" very loosely. It was with a full-on anxiety attack that I posted it. I wasn't sure how people would respond. Fortunately, they responded with love, acceptance and support. A.D.H.D. is an easy one to share. Bipolar disorder is not.<br /><br />With that said, hiding Type 1 bipolar disorder is impossible. Anyone who is around us will eventually be told that the one child who has it does have it. It's the only way of explaining the extreme out-of-control moods. It's far better for a person to understand the child has a mood disorder than to think the child is a brat (label!). <br /><br />I also would never dream of telling another parent their child has such and such! I have parents come to me all the time, through my homeschool consulting business, asking for help. I'm perfectly willing to listen, compare it to my experience with special needs and suggest a course of action for teaching the child and for seeking a true diagnosis. Michelle Cannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00976463783641350548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2146152536391205506.post-32764704362940249412013-10-08T09:45:24.211-07:002013-10-08T09:45:24.211-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Michelle Cannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00976463783641350548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2146152536391205506.post-84801825967689913632013-10-06T20:23:05.791-07:002013-10-06T20:23:05.791-07:00Thanks for posting, not pointing out your kids cha...Thanks for posting, not pointing out your kids challenges but helping them to work through them makes a world of difference. Even when your kid doesn't have a diagnosis or even need one, all of us have areas we have to overcome.LMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17214360611619599465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2146152536391205506.post-50833560357218230572013-10-06T18:21:10.822-07:002013-10-06T18:21:10.822-07:00My son has sensory integration disorder. I never t...My son has sensory integration disorder. I never told him nor anyone else and he is doing fine. I spent a lot of time teaching how to deal with his "issues" and I am glad I did not allow him to be labeled. I think he would not have done so well and worked so hard if he thought he had an excuse for the way he is....just my two cents.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2146152536391205506.post-58487539430933424182013-10-04T20:19:19.130-07:002013-10-04T20:19:19.130-07:00Thanks Chrystal, what gets me is how rude people a...Thanks Chrystal, what gets me is how rude people are by pointing out what they think is wrong with someone else's child. I like your son's attitude.LMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17214360611619599465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2146152536391205506.post-66375172580635592262013-10-04T18:43:56.757-07:002013-10-04T18:43:56.757-07:00Thank you for posting this! I blogged about my son...Thank you for posting this! I blogged about my son and ADHD recently and how we choose not to medicate. My son would be the first to say: "I HAVE ADHD I am NOT ADHD. It's not my name it's my diagnosis."Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02634100350565235034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2146152536391205506.post-35252828966575818242013-10-04T15:02:47.462-07:002013-10-04T15:02:47.462-07:00Jessy thank you. I do believe having a name for a ...Jessy thank you. I do believe having a name for a disorder is helpful to the parent and that we love our kids the way they are. Some parents though, use the label a little to often and point it out when it's not always necessary.LMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17214360611619599465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2146152536391205506.post-90312287467939579852013-10-04T14:12:30.126-07:002013-10-04T14:12:30.126-07:00I think of a label as more a DIRECTION for helping...I think of a label as more a DIRECTION for helping the child, learning about their condition, and understanding what they're going through. My youngest son has Sensory Processing Disorder and a number of challenges that go along with it. Only when he was younger in a few situations did I ever mention his diagnosis as it was important to know during the activity. He knows the label, but also knows that it's not important. It's just a name. We focus on making his life comfortable, fulfilling and loved. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06441870348048026971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2146152536391205506.post-64437290881336134192013-10-03T09:21:39.956-07:002013-10-03T09:21:39.956-07:00Thank you Anna for confirming this. I just feel so...Thank you Anna for confirming this. I just feel so bad for the kid. We as parents should love and praise our children dispite their challenges. Our jobs are to help them overcome them as best as they can, not remind them of it at every turn.LMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17214360611619599465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2146152536391205506.post-23515436823041088782013-10-03T08:30:16.631-07:002013-10-03T08:30:16.631-07:00Before you say something about your child while yo...Before you say something about your child while your kid is standing there, imagine how'd you feel if your parent, husband, or even child mentioned ... 'Mommy and Daddy have yelling problems'.<br /><br />I LOVE it! <br /><br />I particularly dislike the "strong willed child" label. ALL human beings have strong wills - it's just that some are open about it, and some hide it. <br /><br />My Mom always said that saying something bad about someone else doesn't tell us anything about the other person - it ONLY tells us about the person speaking. Anna@stuffedveggieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12245156920636952275noreply@blogger.com